Like rain, the droplets began to create a whirlpool of thoughts and emotions:
Unworthy, unloved, ugly, not good enough, you will never make it, you’re a failure, forgotten, rejected, second place, lonely, abandoned.
Thoughts plagued their minds.
“Broken, is that you?”
“Yes, it’s me.”
I answer to that name because that’s all I know.
People have hurt me, their words continue to haunt me.
I’ve tried to fill this void with people and things that, once taken away from me, made me feel empty.
How will I ever get out of this state of mind?
Who is there to help me?
Have you ever found yourself questioning your identity? Questioning whether or not you are good enough, smart enough, handsome enough, brave enough? I personally can say I have definitely been in situations like this in the past. I would often ponder and over think things in my mind and let the past haunt me with what people have said or the circumstances I was placed in. I, Shelly Ann Fung, had given too much power to these people to say things about me that were not in line with the Word of God.
Questions and the Answers we have pre-conceived in our minds:
Q. Do I have the ability to do this?
A. I won’t do this because this person said I am not able to
Q. What if I’m not good enough?
A. I won’t get into this relationship because the last person told me I would never be good enough for someone else
Q. What if I’m not qualified?
A. I got a 2:2 and not a 1st so why should I even bother trying for that job?
As I was doing some reading and self-reflection the other day, I heard the Holy Spirit say “It’s time to Adjust your Crown. It’s time for my children to stop seeking validation from men and start realising that I define them, I am the One who gives them their identity and purpose.”
People may have said things directly to you or about you that made you feel rejected, abandoned, unloved, hurt or even unworthy. Situations may have left you feeling down and discouraged, to the point where you lose all hope and you no longer know who you are. You walk defeated and answer to names that certainly do not define you. And oh how the enemy takes joy in this. He plants these lies and tells you to listen to these voices, just so He can distract you from the One who has created you and given you His identity.
2 Corinthians 1:21-22
And it is God who establishes us with you in Christ, and has anointed us, and who has also put His seal on us and given us His Spirit in our hearts as a guarantee.
Crowns are meant to be worn on one’s head, not left unworn for people to trample upon them. Adjust your crown and understand who you belong to. Adjust your crown and know who you do not have to be. Don’t you know that you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation (1 Peter 2:9). Yes, we are royalty, and so we must walk and act as royals do. Kings and queens, sons and daughters of the Almighty, wear your crown proudly. Build your identity on the rock, so that when situations come, who you are is not easily shaken (Matthew 7:24-25). Go back to the source, the Word of God. Through His Word your joy will be full and you will have no need to look for materialistic things or people to fill a void or validate you. You will look to Christ, the One who gives joy that is eternal, the One who calls you royalty. Rest in the identity that He Has given you, as through this, you bring Glory to His name; the very purpose for which you were created.
What does the word of God say about me?
I am no longer lonely, because He has called me His friend (John 15:5)
He has called me chosen (1 Thessalonians 1:4)
In Him my life has purpose. He has called me His workmanship (Ephesians 2:10)
I am no longer bound by what people say about me or the way they’ve hurt me because He says I am free. Free indeed (John 8:36)
For those who have abandoned me along the way, there is no need to worry because I am a son and a daughter of God (Galatians 3:26)
When I don’t feel like I am worthy of being loved, remember that I am loved by Love Himself (Romans 5:8)
When I feel guilty and weighed down by the past, I should remember that in Christ I am a new creation, the old me has passed away and behold He has made me new (2 Corinthians 5:17)
The reason I write this post is to encourage you and remind you of who you belong to. We give too much power to worry, fear, doubt, uncertainties and our past, that it muddles who we think we are. Be encouraged and know that you are a child of God. You are deeply loved and cherished. You are highly valued!
Why not write these statements somewhere you will see them regularly. Renew your mind daily of God’s truth and you’ll find it difficult to live a life not guided by His promises.
Grace, peace, love and blessings to you all in the name of Christ.